Being in a Relationship Vs Being Single
Being in a relationship can be a lot more fun than being single. Relationships assure you that you will always have a person to share your successes with. It guarantees that you have someone to air out your problems to. When you are in a relationship you have someone to go out with on weekends, you have someone to share dinner with when you feel blue and you have someone to motivate you when you have a contest to join or a business presentation to make. But there are also downsides to it. Unlike when you are single, you always have to consider how your partner will feel before you do anything. You have to ask permission if you want to go out with your friends. You have to answer text messages and phone calls at once otherwise the other will feel neglected or ignored.
How do you address these downsides and make your relationship work well? Here are some tips to help you.
1. Always talk. This talking thing goes beyond the regular daily chit chats you make. You have to make sure that you regularly talk seriously so you know the sentiments of each other. When you are clear about how the other dreams, you would not worry too much about how he or she will react to whatever you are going to do. You can more or less gauge his or her reactions to your decisions.
2. Set expectations. It is important that early on in the relationship you already set what you want from each other. This way you prevent misunderstandings. Be specific about these expectations. Discuss how much time you want to spend with each other. Tell whenever gimmicks with friends are okay on a regular basis or are they to be totally avoided.
3. Seek relationship coaching. You may think that this part is not essential since coaching is only for relationships that are on the brink of failing. That is not true. Even good relationships can benefit very from coaching. Coaching helps couples set goals and expectations. It can also help create bond moments that will make the relationship stronger. Coaches can also design programs about trust building.
Staying single can give you a certain feeling of independence and freedom since you are not answerable to anyone. But who says that people in relationships can not have these?